Do not, under any circumstance, assign a task to your submissive if you have no (or questioning) intent to stick around at the end of the day. If the relationship is new, ease into it. Ease into her. Allow her to ease into you.
Doing an assignment for a dominant, having him in your thoughts, working on his behalf, thinking you’re pleasing him… only to find out none of it mattered is an awful feeling.
If you’re not sure you want to invest in her, please don’t have her invest in you.
Anonymous asked: My girl asked if she could make a gift scrapbook with things she wanted so I could get her presents for holidays/just because. I asked for a few pages while I went shopping and I should have known to be suspicious from all the giggling. Pages of puppies. Only puppies.
make sure you have that guided discovery conversation about what puppies become.
I just want someone who won’t get annoyed when I text them six times or in all caps. Someone I can go on long drives with and can sing along to the radio with. Someone I can eat pizza with at 2am and kiss at 6pm. Someone who chooses me everyday and never thinks twice about it.(via recklinq)
I have found him and I’m never letting go.(via mistressboone)
Anonymous asked: Can you please describe after care?
Aftercare is one of the most important part of a D/s relationship, possibly the most crucial. It’s the bonding part of the intimacy. It’s the much needed tenderness after rough or intense sex/play. It’s how you develop real trust. Catching your exhausted lover and caring for them with all the love and tenderness that you have to give. You show them that their trust in you is well placed and nowhere else are they more appreciated than in your arms.